Buddhist Theme
Wedding Ceremony

This is our Pre-Written Buddhist Wedding Ceremony. Text in italics are words spoken by the Bride & Groom or Ceremony participants other than the Celebrant. Text in { } are words spoken by the Celebrant to the guests, and generally explain what is happening or about to happen in the Ceremony. Text in [ ] are actions by the Bride & Groom, Celebrant, or other Ceremony participants. All other text are words spoken by the Celebrant directly addressing the Bride & Groom, and/or the guests.


Processional

Opening Words
Welcome! We are gathered here with deepest reverence to bring together into perfect matrimony Bride's Full Name and Groom's Full Name. May this couple be lastingly true to the vows they make today. May they love and respect each other, help each other in stress and woe, keep themselves pure in mind and body, and encourage each other in the promotion of all virtues. Thus spoke Buddha: "the greatest happiness which a mortal man or woman can imagine is the bond of marriage that ties together two loving hearts. But there is a greater happiness still: it is the embrace of Truth."

Opening Prayer
Let us pray... We offer our prayers for all living beings, feeble or strong, small or large, seen or unseen, those dwelling far or near, those who are born, and those who are to be born. May all beings, without exception, know happiness such as we know here today. Amen.

Reading
This reading is taken from the Metta Sutta, also known as the Buddha's Discourse on Loving Kindness.
This is what should be done by the man and woman who are wise, who seek the good, and who know the meaning of the place of peace. Let them be fervent, upright and sincere, without conceit of self, easily contented and joyous, free of cares; let them not be submerged by the things of the world; let them not take upon themselves the burden of worldly goods; let their senses be controlled; let them be wise but not puffed up, and let them not desire great possessions even for their families. Let them do nothing that is mean or that the wise would reprove. May all beings be happy and at their ease. May they be joyous and live in safety. Let none deceive another or despise any being in any state. Let none by anger or ill-will wish harm to another. Even as a mother watches over and protects her only child, so with a boundless mind should one cherish all living beings, radiating friendliness over the entire world, above, below, and all around without limit. So let them cultivate a boundless good will toward the entire world, unlimited, free from ill-will and enmity. Standing or walking, siting or lying down, during all their waking hours, let them establish this mindfulness of good will, which is the highest state.

Expression of Intent
{Now, Groom & Bride will make public their intention to marry.}
Groom, do you come here freely and without reservation to enter into marriage with Bride? Do you promise to dedicate yourself completely to her, with body, speech, and mind, in wealth or poverty, in health or sickness, in happiness or difficulty, in every situation in this life?
Groom: I do!

Bride, do you come here freely and without reservation to enter into marriage with Groom? Do you promise to dedicate yourself completely to him, with body, speech, and mind, in wealth or poverty, in health or sickness, in happiness or difficulty, in every situation in this life?
Bride: I do!

Vows
{And now Groom and Bride will recite their wedding vows}
Groom, please repeat after me...
Bride, I pledge to help you to develop your heart and mind, and to cultivating generosity, ethics, enthusiasm, concentration and wisdom as time passes and we undergo the various ups and downs of life. I promise to transform our difficulties into the path of love, compassion, and joy. I pledge to preserve and enrich my affection for you, and to be patient, kind, and true. I say these things with all my heart as this day I take you as my wife.

Bride, please repeat after me...
Groom, I pledge to help you to develop your heart and mind, and to cultivating generosity, ethics, enthusiasm, concentration and wisdom as time passes and we undergo the various ups and downs of life. I promise to transform our difficulties into the path of love, compassion, and joy. I pledge to preserve and enrich my affection for you, and to be patient, kind, and true. I say these things with all my heart as this day I take you as my husband.

Blessing of the Rings
These rings are circles, and circles are symbolic of the sun, the earth, and the universe. As arms that embrace, these wedding rings you give and receive this day reflect the circle of shared love into which you enter as partners in life. As you wear them, may you always abide in peace and love.

Exchange Of The Rings
{And now, Groom & Bride will exchange their wedding rings}
Groom, please repeat after me...
I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and devotion.

Bride, please repeat after me...
I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and devotion.

Buddhist Handfasting Ritual
[Celebrant invites parents up to tie a Mala, the Buddhist Rosary around the wrists of the couple]
Nothing happens without a cause. The union of this man and woman has not come about accidentally. This tie therefore, cannot be broken or dissolved. To say these words is easy. But difficult times will come as surely as the night. When things go joyously, be compassionate. And, when things go badly, be compassionate. May your hands have the strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment. May you see them as healer, protector, shelter, and guide. May they remain tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their wondrous love. And may your hands continue building a relationship founded in love, rich in caring, and devoted to reaching your dreams.

[Parents untie wrists of Bride and Groom]

Pronouncement of Marriage
{At this time we come to the Pronouncement of Marriage. The Pronouncement is my public, and legal, proclamation that Bride and Groom are married. It is the exact moment of Marriage...}
Groom and Bride, in so much as the two of you have agreed to live together in Matrimony, have promised your love for each other by your vows, the giving of your rings, and the binding of your hands, you are now pronounced husband and wife.

Permission to Kiss
Congratulations, you may kiss!

Benediction
May you know happiness and the source of happiness. May you know peace, as everyone wishes to know peace. May you be free from suffering, and be strong and healthy. May you be safe and protected from inner and outer harm. Go now in loving kindness and compassion. And Sarva Mangalam... May everything in your life be auspicious.

Presentation of the New Couple
Ladies and gentlemen, It is my pleasure to present to you...
Mr. & Mrs. _________________________

Recessional


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